..:: To Our Families ::..

THIS MONTH'S STORY: "A STAMPLESS PETITION"

If I could state all my emotions and feelings, I'd like to tell you the following:
I am in a continuous process of growing up. Although I am your child, I am building a different personality. Please try to be acquainted with me and understand me. I am learning by trial. You may have some difficulties in dealing with me. Give me more freedom in my games, friends and activities. Do not protect and observe me everywhere. I learn better, if I see the results of my actions by myself. Let me do my jobs by myself. How else can I understand that I am growing? Though I want to grow up too much, I sometimes can't stop behaving more childish than I am. Do not pay attention to such behaviours. But do not spoil me. Otherwise I will like to be a child forever. I know that I cannot get everything I want. But I can't stop accepting things as long as you keep giving to me. Do not promise me too often. My trust towards you decreases when you can't keep your promises.

Do not hesitate to act decisively to me. Restrict my actions whenever you see I am going astray. I cannot say that I like all the rules and restrictions you are applying. However, if I am not restricted at all, I become confused. When I see you acting inconsistently, I both shilly-shally and can't stop making use of this situation. Do not forget that I am influenced from your behaviours rather than your advices. You may have some mistakes when educating me. I will forget them quickly. The lack of love and respect towards each other makes me feel sad and uncomfortable. Do not discuss and yell too much. I do not hear loudly spoken words very well. Soft and decisive words have greater influence on me. I am unwilling to listen to phrases like "When I was at your age...". Do not remind my little mistakes reproachfully as if I committed a big crime. Leave a little margin for my small mistakes. Do not try to make me a well-behaved child by frightening, threatening or blaming me. Don't judge me for my little mischiefs as a bad child. Dwell on my misbehaviour and correct them. Listen to me before punishing. I can tolerate my punishment unless it does not exceed my guilt.

Listen to me. Moments where I am mostly inclined to learning are when I am asking questions. Your explanations must be short and pithy. Don't force me to do things exceeding my abilities. Expect me to realize things that I can do. Show me that you trust me. Support me, at least praise me for my trials. Do not compare me with others, that would lead me to hopelessness. Do not expect any maturity above my age. Do not try to teach all the rules at once. Give me time. Don't be upset if I don't behave 100% honestly. Do not squeeze me, otherwise I may begin lying. Even if I bore you too much, try to keep your imperturbability. I can handle your fury, but do never humiliate me. Especially do not scorn me when there are other people present. Do not forget, I can cause trouble, as well.

Whenever you realize that you behaved in an unjustice way to me, do not hesitate to declare it. Your apologize will not decrease my love to you, in opposite it will make me feel closer to you. Actually I consider you to be better and worth than you are. Don't pretend to be untouchable or unfailing, I will have a big sorrow when I notice that you are wrong. I know, sometimes I sadden you or maybe disappoint you. I know that you are not demanding too much, especially when compared with that you have given to me. If my wishes above are too much for you, I can abandon most of them. All that I need is that you keep on loving me. If you don't ask me to be an exemplary child, I will not expect you to be perfect parents. Yours being kind and tender is good enough for me.

It was not in my hands to be born as your child, but if it had been, I would not have wanted to be someone else's child.

Love,

"Your child"...